How to pick out the perfect pair of sunglasses!

Sunnies (sunglasses) are really popular in the summer and might not be so important now that it’s cooler outside but hey, it’s never too early to start stocking up on some very appropriate sunglasses. With Black Friday coming up, I thought it be the perfect time to spill the tea on how and where to find the perfect pair for you.

1. Why do I buy them?

In my opinion, every outfit has the potential to be a look. Looks aren’t just achieved with clothing and hairstyles. They’re accomplished through the use of accessories such as sunglasses. You could wear a plain white t-shirt and some ripped jeans but as soon as you throw on an appropriate pair of sunglasses… that boring outfit turns into a look. By appropriate I mean the pair that matches the vibe you’re trying to create. You could go for a rimless cat eye if you’re trying to be ambiguous or a reflective round pair if you’re trying to achieve the boho look.

2. Where do I buy them from?

It’s not hard to come across a pair of sunglasses these days, in fact they’re now being sold at gas stations. A lot of stores are attempting to keep up with the current trends and are therefore selling similar styles if not the same styles. But the biggest difference between them is the price. You can go to Forever21 and find a nice pair for $5.99 then go to an online shop like Misguided and see them for $15. And it’s that reason alone that made me start shopping on eBay. I am a firm believer in affordable fashions. I might have one or two that have been picked up at a clothing store but it’s safe to say that 90% of my collection has been bought on eBay. They have a wide variety of frames and they’re always on top of all the recent trends.

3. How do I know which one is right for me?

I only buy oversized sunglasses. After seeing the difference between a regular pair and a XXL pair, it’s hard to even look at, let alone buy anything less than 55mm anymore. Before I even think about putting a pair in my cart, I THOROUGHLY check the description box and search for a diagram that draws a better picture of exactly how large the frames are. Anything with a lens height less than 55mm gets passed up. Some sellers might say that the shades are oversized but then you look at the description and find out that it’s not. I know you’re probably wondering how I came across this number but it’s purely the product of research. I’ve been collecting sunglasses for far to long to not know a thing or two on how to identify the type that I like.

Ok so that pretty much sums it up. When searching for a dope pair of sunglasses, don’t be afraid to be as specific as you want. In order to get the pair that you see above, I typed in “oversized black rimless reflective sunglasses” in the search engine on eBay. I saw someone wearing it somewhere online and did some research on Pinterest just to see if I liked it enough to buy it. Pinterest will not only tell you its correct name, if it has one, but it will show you how it typically looks on real life people. That’s another big thing! Beware of the pictures the eBay sellers use to market their product. We all know that everything is not always what it seems so be aware of what works for your particular facial structure and read the description box!!

The sunglasses below are all available on eBay.

P.S. Some of these sellers have deals so look for the ones that offer a buy 2 get 1 free deal, click on the link and only shop from that selection if you’d like to get 3 pairs for the price of 2. If I only want one pair than I try to find some that range from $7-$12 and nothing more. You might be able to find some for $1-$2 but those usually take longer to get to you.


Houston Worship Relief Concert!

This concert was everything! Leave it to Lakewood to know what their community needs. I honestly needed some relief and I’m glad I got it in such a hugely intimate setting. Hurricane Harvey really did a number on Houston but by God’s grace we’re coming back stronger than ever! 

First of all, let me tell you about how I almost missed the whole concert. I was so enthusiastic about attending this event but when Sunday evening finally came around, I was too exhausted from attending a prior event. I didn’t think I’d have the opportunity to attend the show, but when the opportunity came and tapped me on my forehead, I made it my mission to go.

The ridiculously long lines were wrapped completely around the mega church. Just when you thought you’d catch a break by entering the parking lot entrance that was directly in front of the Wesleyan exit, you got bamboozled by the on call police who made it their goal to make sure no new cars would cut the line. One of the officers quickly rerouted the line of cars that were expectantly zooming off the freeway. Sadly, the way we thought God had made  for us quickly took us around the church into an even longer line. Richmond street had come to a halt as pedestrians eased their way in and out of traffic. Thankfully, God came through and my car was the second to enter a side garage entrance that had just opened up. But just as I thought my luck was over, God came through again.

I managed to find parking after making two loops inside the garage but it was pretty far from the entrance. As usual, I find some people who look like they know where they’re going and follow them. Of course being as paranoid as I am, I made sure I received confirmation from the event workers along the way. Now the time had come, I could see the entrance to the church but to my surprise people were walking away from it. Apparently the church had reached its max and was not letting anyone else in, but I wasn’t going to let them stop me. One of my best friends had a seat saved for me and I was determined to have it. As I pressed closer to the gate that had been put up to keep more people from coming in, I asked the Holy Spirit to be with me as I frantically tried to think of a reason for them to let me in.

Just as I was about to tap one of the gate keepers, a call from one of the officials said to let everyone in. And I’m sure you can probably guess what happened. Everyone behind the gate took off running. I’m not one to run at an event but just to ensure that I wasn’t the one that got held back,  I quickly added a pep to my step. I hustled to the section where my friends were only to find one of them on her way to retrieve me. But as quickly as we reached the section, we were denied entrance. We tried to go up to the third floor in hopes of finding a way back to the second floor from inside the sanctuary but we were denied entrance again. 

By now the spirit that caused me to even attempt to make my way into the concert the first time had returned and I told my friend to come along because were definitely getting in. As usual I asked the Holy Spirit to be with me because sometimes my determination can get the best of me. Thankfully, the door keepers had changed and the lady that now guarded the entrance that we were supposed to go through kindly let us in with ease. Shout out to the Holy Spirit again!

You wouldn’t even believe how packed the sanctuary was. Seats that I had never seen filled before were overflowing with people. Hearts were ready to receive the Lord and the musicians were already ushering Him in. It was beautiful. People of all shapes and sizes were there. Different nations had to have been represented there because my row alone appeared to me extremely diverse. Luckily, the trance that the massive crowd had put me in broke as I heard the introduction to one of my favorite songs “I am not alone” by Kari Jobe. Suddenly, the crowd went crazy and hands were thrown in the air without a care in the world. It was stupendous.

As the music roared in my ears, the lyrics danced on my heart. Chris Tomlin’s song “Good Good Father” and Hillsong’s “What A Beautiful Name” reminded me of how blessed I was to be there. As often as I unfortunately feel neglected by God, He’s always there to remind of how precious my desires are to Him. If you’re like me and you feel like sometimes your silent desires go unnoticed, hold on to your pants because they’re about to be blown away. God has not forgotten you. He’s waiting for the right time to show you that He really does exist and sees you even though you can’t see Him. 

It’s funny because just earlier that day, I was reminded of how nothing I could possibly think of compares to what God has in store for me. The Bible says eyes have not seen, ears have not heard, nor has it come to the imagination of man, all that God has for those who love Him. (1 Corinthians 2:9) So wait on it and wait on Him, dream bigger than you’ve ever dreamt before. Just like I never thought that I would get the chance to see a good amount of my favorite contemporary christian bands LIVE FOR FREE, who knows what experience you’ll be blessed with soon.

“Your unfailing love, O Lord, is as vast as the heavens; your faithfulness reaches beyond the clouds.”

‭‭Psalms‬ ‭36:5‬ ‭NLT‬‬

I hope my experience has given you a reason to not give up. 

Until Next Time,

Embler 💋

Noir Beauty Event!

You could say that I’ve attended a fair amount of events this year, but it’s usually more business than pleasure. Whether I’m there as a guest or purchase my tickets, the question is always the same. What am I going to get out of attending this function?

I believe hosting quality events is a most! No matter the theme or occasion, great attention to detail should be applied when making sure an event runs smoothly. But I’m not writing this post about how awesome this event was. I’m writing about some of the things I noticed or better yet learned from being a guest at the first Noir Beauty event.

1. Being Personable Is Extremely Important 

Whether you’re the people hosting the event or one of the guest, you shouldn’t look unapproachable. Events like this are meant for like-minded individuals to come and bask in the fact that there are other individuals out there who share the same interests. If your outfit or makeup is fire, expect to get some looks. Whether they’re looks of approval or disapproval is not your business, it’s your job to respond with a smile. If you know in your heart that there’s nothing wrong with how you look then don’t let the stares of potentially shy admirers get to you. You never know who you’ll meet again at a future event so refrain from burning bridges.

2. Having Quality Goodie Bags Is Much Appreciated 

I never knew how lacking some of these “goodie bags” were until I attended this event. Not only was the bag I received very hefty,  it had very functional products inside. And by functional I mean products that you could actually put on your hair without making it fall off. They didn’t try to cheat you by putting one or two samples surrounded by a lot of informative flyers about the vendors. The beauty products are generous in regards to quantity, therefore, they should last us longer than two days. Gifts of appreciation such as these not only makes the guest feel good about their decision to come, but it leaves room for them to come to future events also. So just in case you ever plan on having a “beauty” event, reach out to vendors who are more than willing to make your event’s goodie bags one to remember.  

3. Step Outside The Boat

You’ll never know  if something can truly be a success unless you try it. Even though this was the first Noir Beauty event, the bloggers, naturalistas and general public were definitely in attendance. The hosts Coco and Jessica were a breath of fresh air, but most of all, you could tell that they really worked hard to make sure everything fell in place. I was taken back by how surprised yet thankful they were at the turn out of their event. Coco even called this event her “baby”, so I can only imagine how many late nights went into making sure her vision came to life. Jessica was inspired by all the multi-faceted guests that attended, so I’m definitely looking out for more projects from her. Of course this is just the beginning and there’s better to come, but this was definitely a great start. Pick up your notepad and learn from them, don’t be afraid to reach out to those who share the same vision as you. But please pray about it first and remember that some people are not always who they appear to be. Nonetheless, collabing with a friend or fellow visionary can make the dream a reality if you’re both willing to put in the work.

Ok everyone, that’s all I have for you today. I don’t want this post to be too long so I’ll just end it here. I hope I’ve given you some noteworthy information and some potential points to think about when attending your next event! 

Until Next Time, 

Embler 💋 

The Non-traditional Route

Do you see students refrain from applying to medical school because there are “too many” doctors? Or do you see a decline in engineers because the market is “too saturated”? If the answer is no, then why isn’t that the case when someone wants to start a blog or a youtube channel? If you added up all the bloggers and vloggers in the world, would it add up to the amount of nurses there are? 

So what’s up? What’s the problem? Why are we keeping people from pursuing their passion or furthering their hobby? What’s it to us if someone gets the courage to step out of their comfort zone in order to follow the will of God? Or is being a blogger exempt from being the will of God?

“The human body has many parts, but the many parts make up one whole body. So it is with the body of Christ.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:12‬ ‭NLT‬

We are created with different gifts and therefore have been instructed to take on different roles. But is it because a role is non traditional that means it’s not worthy? No. Or is it because a role is traditional that means it’s not good enough? No. 

“Yes, the body has many different parts, not just one part. If the foot says, “I am not a part of the body because I am not a hand,” that does not make it any less a part of the body. And if the ear says, “I am not part of the body because I am not an eye,” would that make it any less a part of the body? If the whole body were an eye, how would you hear? Or if your whole body were an ear, how would you smell anything?”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:14-17‬ ‭NLT‬

Here’s some advice coming from yet “another blogger”. Start up that blog and be going. Start up that youtube channel and be going. Write that song and be going. Don’t look left, don’t look right. Look up at He who put that desire in your heart, for He gave it to you for a reason. Pray about it and ask for the guidance to see it through since every big dream requires much strength and determination.

There are many long nights that go into writing or learning how to speak confidently on camera. There are many times where sleep is lost for the purpose of perfecting your craft. Do you think it’s easy to read music? Or do you think writing something that makes sense is a walk in the park? Shoot, even trying to find the perfect lighting and angle that is worthy of the person being photographed is tasking. 

Lets stop acting like our days here on earth aren’t numbered. In light of all the recent tragedies, we have to come to the conclusion that  tomorrow is not promised. Lord knows how many dreams, solutions and goals go to the grave each and every day. Do you know that your blog post could help alleviate someone’s pain? Did Fenty Beauty not come to unite? In a world where some skin tones have been disregarded by majority of the big brands, God is  giving people the desire to change that. 

“But our bodies have many parts, and God has put each part just where he wants it.”

‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:18‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Do you want to be apart of the problem or apart of the solution? Whether you have been given the idea or not, be apart of the solution by encouraging people to follow their God-given dreams. Don’t be the reason someone misses out on a tremendous blessing. And if you’re the one with the life-size dream, don’t be the reason that someone doesn’t get the help that they need. It’s not about you, it’s about how God is going to move through you.  

If one part suffers, all the parts suffer with it, and if one part is honored, all the parts are glad. All of you together are Christ’s body, and each of you is a part of it.”
‭‭1 Corinthians‬ ‭12:26-27‬ ‭NLT‬‬

Waiting Room Confessionals #1

For some odd reason, I seem to have my deepest thoughts in waiting rooms. Whether it’s waiting to see a doctor or employer, my mind seems to run the most whenever I’m forced to sit down and wait. Today I sat and scrolled through Instagram and realized something.  Continue reading “Waiting Room Confessionals #1”

The Lamp and the Lamp Post

You are the lamp and your foundation is the lamp post. What do you believe in? What is it that only you can contribute to this world? But why should you ask yourself these questions you might ask, because you are not like anyone else. From the intricate traits that make up your personality down to the finger prints that identify you, everything about you is unique… but it comes with a burden. Continue reading “The Lamp and the Lamp Post”

New Hair Color 

I’ve been trying to enter the color game for some months now but I’ve always been scared to in fear of looking “ghetto”. As African American women, we are told that our skin is too dark for certain hair colors but in 2017, influencers alike are proving that to be false. After some time, here’s how I found a color that compliments my skin tone. Continue reading “New Hair Color “

Another Year 💕

Oh another year, another opportunity. Most people don’t know this but my birthday secretly gives me anxiety. Whether it’s trying to plan an amazing celebration or just scrutinizing my progress since my last birthday, I never fail to be on edge this time of year. But I’m changing that now.

Continue reading “Another Year 💕”

Time to build 

You’d think that since I was the epitome of optimism during the storm that now that the storm is over, the optimism would still be there. But nope, it started to dwindle.

To explain my current state of being, I’m going to refer to the story of the mustard seed. To better clarify, in the bible, Jesus stated that if you have faith the size of a mustard seed then you can tell a mountain to move and it will move. Bringing it back to me, it feels like I’ve been walking this walk with my mustard seed of faith in my hand. Sometimes my grip is tight around it but sometimes my grip is lose enough for it to fall between my fingers.

But as I was thinking of the current state of things, I chunked my seed. It felt like nothing was working out. Reality was setting in and things were falling through the cracks. So I started getting frustrated with God. Then of course, that led to me remembering the plans I had for my life and how nothing was going as planned. Life didn’t make sense. I couldn’t remember why I was even writing or blogging. I felt so discouraged. I started remembering all the motivational posts I would see on Instagram and it all seemed to be lies. Posts like, “If God is making you wait, be prepared to receive more than you were asking for”, sounded like pure trash. Just to be honest.

But thankfully that mindset didn’t last long. After  getting some sleep, I woke up in the morning feeling a little better. Well, better enough to desire to go and find my mustard seed lol. As I laid in bed, I remembered how bad I had felt the day before. I had no desire to do much anymore or even continue blogging. I just wanted to sit quietly and work as the days passed by. But God would not let that be my life.

For some reason, no matter how hard I tried to ignore the desires God had placed in my heart regarding my life, I couldn’t shake it. Instead the fire was re-ignited. I was reminded of how horrible I would feel if I looked back on this point in my life and how I had let it go to waste. Then I started realizing how blessed I was and how the enemy just wanted me to stay down so I would never walk the path that God designed for me. 

So as I walk into September, I’m clutching my mustard seed tighter than ever. I’m reminded of the saying “the dream won’t work unless you do”. I’m gathering my supplies and making plans on how to fully get the best of what this month has to offer. This month will be the match that lights up the rest of my year. The lies of the enemy can’t hold me down unless I let it. Instead of getting frustrated at the little things that are disguised as big things, I’m learning to step back and look at the bigger picture.

But the biggest lesson I’ve learned from all of this is that being optimistic takes work. Don’t ever think that people are born happy, it’s a choice that is made each and everyday and I’m choosing to make that choice. I’m hoping to see the fruits of optimism and positivity by the end of this month. I’m willing to do the work that’s needed to rebuild. September is already here which means the year is almost over. But with God as my strength, there’s definitely time to build. 

It’s time to make real plans! New months come with new attitudes and new attitudes bring new blessings. It’s time to have tangible results. It’s time to be proud of ourselves and the way we were created. It’s time to accept the fact that our lives are worth more than we could ever think or imagine. It’s time to rise up and draw the blueprints that will help us to bring about the life we’ve always wanted!